The relationship

A slave in M/s is a submissive, but a submissive is not necessarily a slave. A submissive only agrees within a limited scope of activities, which may include all kinds of kink in many ways to please herself as much as her dominant, has a safe word when she wants to stop the activity. While a slave has deeper longing and submission, and it is not about her kink or satisfaction sexual or otherwise. It is about her selflessness or altruism, sacrificing for the other, in this case, your master. (Note, I am not capitalizing on these terms. While it may be a normal protocol in the BDSM community communication I am not writing on the behalf of.) Capitalizing a word does not mean respect or lack of any nor any superiority above someone. In a normal speech, we do not stop and say "Dominant, with a capital D". The same thing goes for the submissive/slave referring to herself as "she or it" during our get to know phase. For one thing, you are not mine just yet. I speak to you with respect and in a normal way, just like I would when in public with you by your name real one, or by the nick pet name I gave you. You would call me by my first name or sir. Not your master/owner in public those names are reserved when we are alone.

By practicing selflessness in a relationship, let's just say I am your master for a second, just for argument's sake, making my needs, let that be sexual, or otherwise – and my needs are not just sexual, (in many ways less than you may think) you cater to them first, no matter how uncomfortable it may make you, physically, emotionally, or even to fathom them psychologically. In other words, you make me the priority and yours own become secondary. By doing so, and by making me happy, you get satisfaction and pleasure. If this is the primary goal – it is relatively easy to achieve. See the chart below it will help you to understand.

The tenet of a slave in Total Power Exchange

Many submissives and slaves are only in their minds think that they are. When it comes to reality it is anything but! They get scared, get anxious fear overcomes them, and may even throw up, saw that happen a few times, very embarrassing for them. They change their mind quicker than you can spell "over estimated". It may be a great fantasy, especially for those who want TPE, direction, and control. When the realization hits and it does, it is not for those who just fantasize. Suitable for someone who needs structure and protocol in her life 24/7. Who is very strong-willed, not weak. May have some masochistic tendencies, enjoy objectification, certain humiliation, even degradation and wants the TPE slavery for life, not as a part-time wannabe who is just interested only in sexual kinks and is topping from the bottom. Are you still reading what I wrote? Did I scare the wits out of out you? Not my plan! I just want to clarify to make it crystal clear as I want you to crave it, live for it.

The best way to understand BDSM consensual slavery is to think of it as a religion, remember I said I would come back to this. Think of a nun, who enters a convent to worship her God. She prays to her God, makes personal sacrifices including her sexuality, must follow a strict protocol in her everyday life, dress, and manners as set out by the convent. Now think what does she truly gets out of all these sacrifices, worship, and prayers? Apart from her own faith in God, nothing else. God doesn't speak to her, does not do anything for her, religion is about control: pray, obey and pay. In essence, it is an excellent comperasment I am your "God" (although I do not feel like one), as you submit, obey and worship me, live for me. No one forced the nun, nobody forces you. She and you joined voluntarily. Maybe you never looked at it this way. I am here to open your mind, perceptions helping you, as I do not want to confuse or scare you, I am mentoring you. Now would I do this just for anyone? I am practically writing a book for you "The Dark Desires of Y".

I can not rewire your brain, your feelings about slavery. However, I can enlighten and take away your fears, by reassuring you. The want has to come from within yourself! I can encourage it by rewarding you or by disciplining you. However, negative reinforcement only creates resentment. If you are my property as my sub/slave don't you want to make me happy, feel pleased about you and your attitude? Do you want me to show you my pleasure by my actions towards you, verbally, physically, or emotionally? It is about surrendering yourself, entrusting yourself to the other in this case to me. Behavior modification is not easy, it can be done, and can be very drastic, but that is not submission or surrender. Truly it has to start with the trait of selflessness. Can you be? Can you give up control and accept the consequences, for the good of your master?

A slave gives herself unconditionally with absolute trust in the one she commits to, knowing that she will be kept safe from harm yet still pushed continually. Servitude comes in many forms and the slave must be willing to submit to them all without question. It is a very scary thing to give such power over, but TPE is about that. It can be also very reassuring to know that your needs are taken care of. Of course, those needs can vary apart from our basic needs of air, water, food, shelter, followed by the need of love/belonging, sex, esteem, and self-actualization being on top.

If submission really is what you want in life you can make the changes necessary. I can guide, encourage and thank you by showing my appreciation for you. If you feel that submission is a good thing and right for you, just remember good and worthwhile things are never easy to achieve. Work hard at it and you will be rewarded.

Did I just peeked into your soul, and capture your desires? Are you fascinated that I was able to speak to you with so much passion, desire, and honesty? Did you feel the release of joy from the depths of your soul, finally someone is listening to your needs? Giving you understanding, FREEDOM from your deeply suppressed long stifled desires, the opportunity to truly be the woman you always wanted but never dared to be? Congratulations, you discovered yourself!

NOW you know who and what I am about and more importantly what I seek. I am sorry that was a bit long. While I could just say "on your knees bitch and obey me" that would not give you any clarity about just who I am, and just as importantly just who you are. One day, you may actually want that but by then you would know me, but until that day what I want from I cannot tell you what I need in fewer words. I could show you in person, and yes it would be easier if you and I would be neighbors, but that is very unlikely. Again this distance is only temporary and does not let that be a barrier for us to get to know each other. We can bridge the distance all we need is the desire to communicate.

Do not be afraid to speak to me from your soul, about your innermost desires, that you've been putting aside and aside, waiting for someday to surface, and to be revealed to someone special. I will be honored if you'd tell me about them, your cravings or fetish that you need so much, yet you are truly missing it right now from your life! I will listen to you, to your desires from mild as wild and dark as you want to get, and your need to be dominated. You will feel better because you have my complete attention, my trust, and my confidentiality. I've mentioned already my limits where I have drawn the line but anything else is open if that is what you craving for. You want me to learn about your needs and incorporate these into my own expectations from you!

As a closing point, I am not interested in sharing you with others or attending BDSM events or so-called munches showing you off to others. If you have some exhibitionist tendencies it would have to be in another jurisdiction, far from where we reside.

Apply with confidence: start earning my trust with your serious reply. You have to tell me: • your name, (first will do for now) • age • height • weight • measurements including cup size • marital status, (had married females running away to be my slave, I do not want that!) • attach a photo (A nice smiling face and a full-body one, they do not have to be nude) • the name of the city or town and province/state you are living in at the present.

Your address or ph# are NOT required right now. Once we've established mutual trust and realize that I am not some kind of psycho, I will need a mailing address and ph#, to contact you, I am more than willing to provide my own in exchange. State that you have read, understood what I want and need from you.

Write about yourself, your work tell me about your needs from M/s, about your recreational and personal interests. Your joys and fears. The more sincere you are with me -- the more sincere reply you will receive.

Feel my confident words penetrating into your soul, my exuberant visions feeling your mind, our visions! The wait is over! Do not worry about just how many applicants there are. You'd be surprised to learn that actually very few are serious, most only are interested in flirting for attention. Concentrate on being the ONE that I want! To reassure that YOU have a chance, as long as this site is operating I am looking! Once you've made a tangible personal commitment to me in person, this site will be no longer available, I will not be looking for someone else I will have you -- my precious slave!

PLEASE NOTE: if you are using free anonymous e-mail services such as hotmail, yahoo, gmail, and so on, I will not release any personal information until you proved to me that you are indeed the person who has applied is a female and for real. Furthermore, I would want to use encrypted secure email from ProtonMail here you can get a free account for your smartphone, tablet, laptop and desktop.