Your desires

You are an intelligent submissive female craving LTR and TPE in the realm of BDSM lifestyle with a vivid older Dominant who understands your dark desires. This site is about my search for you, who will take positive steps to fulfill what you have been yearning for a lifetime. This is one of a kind dating site for just the two of us. I am here for you to empower, fulfill with encouragements your desires which may be considered kinky or even dark. I am here to orchestrate all these visions and feelings which are pent-up deeply in your mind and soul no matter how shy to take your first step in achieving them: to change your world.

Must be a female:
Natural, biological females with menstrual cycles are born with two X chromosomes. To be considered that is a must. Sorry but no pre or post-operative female transgender or someone who identifies as one. This site is not about porn. Nor is this about sex cults etc. It is about two consensual adults searching for each other to enjoy each other's desires in their privacy.

It is not The Story of O, although there may be some similarities, your obsession and drive to attain such levels where you actually derive pleasures first and foremost by pleasing your dominant that may include pain in your undertaking. There is sexual submission and control to a degree as in the classic Venus in Furs, but not as merciless. So falsely portrayed the recent unrealistic Fifty Shades of Grey books and films. This is about you discovering your undeniable needs from a man, not just any man:from the ONE you want to be owned!

But why search on the internet for such a relationship? Actually, it is quite simple it is the anonymity without revealing it to all. It is private, it is just between you and me. No one knows or can say anything about it, and trust me in this, many of your friends or family will talk you out of this lifestyle, if they find out, it happened to several applicants in the past. You are in control of your desires and destiny, taking the necessary steps. While you could sign up for personal dating sites which cost money, they are more about getting your money than actually finding someone, it is a business after all. Apart from that, they always include the disclaimer in small print: "people here may not reflect any genuine persons" they are just bots.

Another thing to remember with such dating sites their database can be hacked, look what happened to Ashley Madison several years ago, all members' info was available online. No credit card is required here. In this lifestyle, there are many acronyms, and you may or not be familiar with many of them, I will link you to a page that defines these.

To save your and my time I am not looking: for a switch someone who enjoys both the dominant and submissive role; a slave who only wants physical torture to be locked away in a dungeon 24/7 (do not have one); a human-pig or lactating cow someone just used for breeding; had several masters and now worn-out and were dismissed and now have all kinds anger or psychological of issues; a gimp; if not able-bodied or with health issues; looking for a sugar daddy; looking for a Daddy in the BDSM sense; nymphomaniac, I am way to old for that maybe when I was in 30's or even mid 40's you are just a few decades late; females who want to escape their failing marriage; if you just seeking advice about BDSM, in general, there are plenty of sites for that! I say the above as this is not my first rodeo, writing from real experience. Do not waste your time we are not compatible just move on.

First and foremost: Get yourself a good cup of coffee/ tea, as this will take some time, sit back and relax. Maybe a glass of your favourite wine, but not too much, I want you to focus clearly without your preconceived inhibition. Close your eyes for a couple of seconds, take a couple of deep breaths, exhale slowly, and just relax, it will do you a lot of good! Clear your head of all the pressures of everyday living and instead focus on your soul. Think deeply about your true desires let them go wild, of your needs in a relationship, and the kind of lover you desire and need. Some dreams can come true...

Feels good to relax a bit, doesn't it? Good, now smile a bit, and join me to discover what is the missing element from your life. Now that you are ready let me guide your soul. Think about this for a minute deeply. Let it sink in. "Your whole life has been nothing but waiting, waiting for it just to mean something; here is your real opportunity to find your true destination in life." Are you a free spirit, adventurous, open-minded, do you want to enjoy discovering your desire? (yes) Do you dare to dream and follow through? (yes) Do you measure happiness by the memories you share rather than what items you own? (yes) Would you rather be in front of your master as his hands touch your warm, supple naked skin than being shopping at the mall? (yes) Would you rather be outdoors, enjoying the scenic beauty of nature, the fragrance of freshly picked wildflowers than watch soaps on the TV? (yes) Does the greatest joy and satisfaction for you come from pleasing and satisfying your lover's needs with your body, mind, and soul? (yes) Then continue to read my words, several times over, think about them, reflect on your life and when you are clear about your path, apply!

The wonderful you:

The starting point: is to admit to yourself that you enjoy being controlled, having darker desires to submit to be dominated in your personal life not necessarily just in your sex life. Whatever these activities may be for you these desires are something that you want as normal, and much needed. I am seeking you to be that woman, the vehicle, the vessel, the instrument, or the object from which I derive my satisfaction. You want to regard yourself as existing solely for my pleasure well being in your normal day-to-day life, with your feminine style, charm, and grace. While this is your prime focal point you still do not wish to lose your own individuality. I am not asking you to do that either, only asking you to be the woman I need in my life, flexible open-minded, giving in our private world. Life is just too short to hide your real needs and feelings. Be free to admit your needs to be dominated and used accordingly without any ridicule or abuse. We are looking for a very sensual, passionate relationship that is satisfying physically, emotionally as well as psychologically.

The submissive I look for and want to establish an M/s relationship is you. You can be very bright, confident in yourself and abilities, or when it comes to men shy, unsure, even timid about your perceived look -- how others see you, do not worry we can overcome that easily together if you trust me. You are feminine, perhaps a girlie-girl type, an ardent romantic. On the surface in charge of your personal life and surroundings yet your submissive trait is craving to surface from deep inside. Your true yearning is concealed from the rest of your world, yet you want to break out from this invisible shell of yours but only in the safety of privacy. To give over control and be in a safe environment that reflects your inner needs to submit to your dominant partner, to feel complete and happy.

Suitable for someone who needs structure and clear easy to understand the protocol in her life. You could be a professional; a doctor, lawyer, nurse, a librarian, or a business owner with busy time schedules or pressures. Perhaps be a waitress, an artist, farmhand, a sex worker, a semi or professional model, it doesn't really matter – what matters is that you are independent, self-reliant. You should not have any roommates to interfere or to make judgments (and they will I've been in this situation) just how and with whom you spend your private time. You do not need a man to rely on to keep a roof over your head but need one to share your desires. Once you are at home, your time is your own, and want to forget your daily hustle and bustle. I will never judge you by your education, or profession, only by the inner qualities you possess and upon your attitude towards me.

Despite the 24/7 type of intense and passionate relationship, outside of our private world, you will still be you, making the necessary decisions regarding your profession. Keep your needs and our relationship private between us, not just now but in the future too. The emphasis is on privacy I am repeating this because this is true.

It is very important to make time, to wind down, and just erase your everyday responsibilities, to revitalize yourself. To enter our private world: and to make time to cherish those moments that we spend together. Involved with me in M/s does not mean that your "normal vanilla" life ends and you lose all your family or friends unless you choose to do so and sometimes that is the best, no interference from them. Prefer you to continue with your profession I will not stop your intellectual, professional development, or work life, all I ask is that you can separate the two. In essence, it will be two separate and different lives: public and private. In your private, our personal relationship must come first, I have to be your only priority. Truly, I want to see you happy, your warm smile every morning and evening will give me the utmost pleasure and satisfaction!

Sorry, I do not own a dark castle in the Alps and private jet, or ski chalet in the Rockies and a helicopter, to where I could just take you away… Of course, if you truly just want to walk away from it all, it may be possible, but let's not get carried away.

Age-wise, well that is truly open, and it depends on several factors. First and foremost, you have to be of the legal age of 21, (but let's be realistic would you want to spend your time with me who could be old enough to be your grandfather?) my preference would be in the late 30s to mid-40s. You want a much older, experienced, intelligent male. I prefer you to be wise and mature in your thought process, in other words not with immature tendencies or be undependable. M/s is about commitment.

From my past experience, I've learned younger females in the early 20s, even when I was much younger, have an issue with commitments, heck even if in their 30s or older some do not know what they truly want. Of course, there is always an exception, so I will not make cynical pre-judgments on anyone. The key is maturity and knowing what you want!! Perhaps you feel about males that way too. I am not here to play games.

You have a mesmerizing smile, I love a great warm smile! Slim to average weight proportional if you are over 140lbs or 64kg I am sorry but I will not feel comfortable. I am very visual. You should have feminine curves, fit, healthy, yoga is a plus. You can be petite or tall 5ft to 5'9", and would prefer you to be Caucasian, and living in Canada, the USA in that order. I would consider you from Western Europe, as long as you afford to travel back and forth until you can immigrate legally on your own. Not an easy task. One of my former slave, from the UK, who was very dear and special to me failed to obtain an immigration visa to Canada (she missed out on submitting it by one day, as the Laws changed to enter Canada. After 13 months of visiting each other for weeks at a time, I had to let her go! As a UK citizen, before that, she could have just moved here without any BS.) Currently, this is even more difficult due to the pandemic, so until we get back to something that one can consider "normal" it has to be a long distance. I can't sponsor you, been there done that it did not work out.

Prefer you to be single, divorced, or widowed: you have no children as dependents, and not planning to have any, as I can't have any, and this lifestyle is not for the children's eyes. A heterosexual biological female who is attracted to males. Please be non-smokers, I do not smoke, and not be into any type of drug habits, I do not have any habits, only prescriptions if sick. No STDs, I am clean do not have any. Being a very light social drinker, I hardly consume any alcohol.

Without a doubt, you are a wonderful woman: intelligent, wise, caring, warm, romantic, sensual, dedicated, the type that every male would like to have a fling with. When it comes to baring your soul you are ALONE, keeping your submissive trait private. As you have a genuine need to please and serve the person, be dominated by your own choice, by the person you choose to share your needs and soul with. You also realize that there is more to life than just sexual domination.

You want nothing less than complete surrender to me if you honour me to be your master. You are also a bit, no let's face it, very nervous about this. The idea as you think about this every time, you also get excited and feel tingling sensations. A warmth flashes throughout your body, maybe even a bit moist, as you think about your submission deeply and fantasize what it could be. Read the poem I wrote many years ago below. Feel free to masturbate while reading it and thinking of serving me.